This one is for the ones with the defined G centre

“Do I feel myself, here?”

We are undergoing one of the biggest identity crises in the history of work – where people are feeling more lost than ever.

A couple years ago, people were coming to my business coaching practice, seeking clarity on “who am I, what is my true value, and what does that mean for the market and the work I am meant to do?”

Today, the confusion around this question has only gotten more acute in an uncertain world…

“Who am I? What is my value in a world where AI can replace what I do?”

The truth is that your value was never what you do. It was always who you ARE in the space of what you do. And everything you have ever done.

“I cannot be anyone but myself”

Those with a defined G centre will relate to this.

For the undefined G, the feeling oscillates between two states depending on how conditioned they are.

The shadow state is – “I don’t know who I am. I feel different depending on who I’m with and I can’t find the real me underneath it all.” That’s the homelessness. The existential searching. The exhaustion of absorbing everyone else’s identity and mistaking it for their own.

The liberated state is – “I don’t need to be anyone fixed. I can be fully present with whoever is in front of me, in whatever environment I’m in, and that fluidity is my gift not my flaw.”

The difference in identity “energy” in the defined G feeling is like an “anchor”, whereas the undefined G feeling is “water”

Neither feel good or like themselves if they try to be the other.

The G centre sits right in the middle of the Human Design bodygraph as a diamond. And is the centre that holds energy for identity, self direction, purpose and self love.

Whether this is defined (coloured), or undefined (uncoloured) for you, this will be very revealing in the exact way this energy manifests.

And is beautiful either way.

Identity shifts are painful. It isn’t that you become someone new, but that you shed off one more layer to make room for a version that grew and no longer fit its outside skin

When it’s first exposed it feels raw, exposed, vulnerable 

Soft, and not fully formed

You want to immediately put another hard shell around it, but that’s exactly what will prevent the forming of that growth identity 

The real core of this entry is about identity shifting

The start of 2026 has seen me navigating yet again another big identity shift. The birth of my son, and shakeups again in my identity as a business owner.

The business environment feels like it’s changing like nothing else. And what used to feel like home no longer does.

In me there is also change.

It feels like I’m shedding the skin of an identity I have held in business for the last 7 years. Not that it’s disappearing but maturing

Knowing that it’s no longer what fits. What is enough.

And I felt that sense of exposure, vulnerability, the fear of instant rejection by others

Whatever shift you might be going through- know that your growing identity DESERVES a safe space to birth.

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Why identity shifts hit defined G so hard

If you have a defined G centre, your identity isn’t something you think your way into. It’s something you are – consistently, reliably, whether you like it or not.

Which sounds like a gift. And it is.

But it also means that when life asks you to grow – a life change, new baby, a business evolution, a relationship that no longer fits – you can’t just adapt. You have to mourn. The old version of you has to actually die before the new one can breathe.

Undefined G (in its unconditioned state) can have the ability to move through identity shifts with more fluidity. They were never that attached to a fixed self to begin with. But for the defined G – it feels like the roots are being pulled up in a different kind of pain entirely.

This is why the postpartum period (in my case), a business transition, a creative reinvention – any of these can feel almost existential for defined G, like an internal death. It’s not just your role changing. It feels like you are changing. Because in a sense you are.

The temptation is to reach for the new shell immediately. To repackage, rebrand, reposition – anything to stop feeling so exposed. But that’s exactly what prevents the new identity from fully forming.

It’s fascinating that as I was writing this draft post, we were in midst of the gate 37 transition (family, communities and the agreements within) and even though this is undefined for me, I felt this transition acutely.

More about this gate in a coming blog post.

It feels more alive than so many more and it’s definitely a visible shadow that exists in my life.

Last night I got an out of blue personal request- one that I had no capacity at present to handle, that threw my nervous system into overwhelm.

11 weeks post partum and I’m feeling raw and not myself. At times like I don’t even know myself anymore.

It feels familiar and manageable, but I know it’s also a pattern I’ve held for a long time.

Familiar and manageable, holding the weight

Until I can’t anymore.

Every time I go through this shift , I’m seeking answers internally, I go back to basics, human design, learning.

Uncovering another layer.

This time round, I’m navigating both the identity crisis as well as hitting the capacity limits of my nervous system that I hadn’t before. 

I know that it’s my next stretch.

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The defined G in the wrong environment

As a defined G, your identity doesn’t just live inside you. It lives in relationship with your environment. 

The defined G has a magnetic quality. You literally draw the right people, places and experiences toward you when you’re living in alignment. But when you’re in the wrong room, with the wrong people, asked to be something that doesn’t match your fixed inner frequency – you feel it as a specific kind of wrongness.

The feeling is like a grinding dissonance. Like a compass being held next to a magnet.

I’ve spent years in rooms that weren’t mine. Performing certainty about directions I didn’t truly feel. Delivering real value, yes – but always slightly off-center from where I actually belonged.

The defining (and arguably one of the most important) questions that is the compass for those with a defined G – is “do I feel myself, here?” 

This isn’t a small question. It’s the whole question.

Because for defined G, environment isn’t just context. It’s the difference between thriving and slowly disappearing.

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What conditioning looks like for defined G

Because defined G always feels like themselves, the conditioning is subtle. It doesn’t look like confusion. It looks like certainty about the wrong things.

You can build an entire identity – a career, a brand, a way of showing up. That was shaped by what was rewarded rather than what was true.

And because it feels consistent, because it feels like you, you can’t easily see that it was built on other people’s expectations rather than your own inner compass.

For many defined G people, the real identity – the unconditioned one – starts emerging in moments of stillness. In the things they’re drawn to when nobody needs anything from them. In the direction their attention keeps returning to, again and again, despite themselves.

Pay attention to those moments. That’s the compass speaking underneath the conditioning.

Liberation for undefined G is letting go, letting go of the need to “be someone fixed”

And liberation for the defined G, is placing themselves in the environment and with people that allows them to be consistently fully themselves, always.

The defined G craves deeply the need to be grounded in their identity. What is authentic and true.

And freedom is in knowing that can only come from. You

The truth of the defined G is that they were never meant to shape shift or adapt.

The feeling of authenticity never came from what others validate 

It comes from coming home to you.

The key question to help you navigate identity questions as a defined G

“Do I feel myself, here?”